Some good old fashioned Dr Phil

#1: You either get it, or you don't. Become one of those who gets it.
#2: You create your own experience. Acknowledge and accept accountability for your life.
#3: People do what works. Identify the payoffs that drive your behavior and that of others.
#4: You cannot change what you do not acknowledge. Get real with yourself about your life and everybody in it.
#5: Life rewards action. Make careful decisions and then pull the trigger.
#6: There is no reality; only perception. Identify the filters through which you view the world.
#7: Life is managed; it is not cured. Learn to take charge of your life.
#8: We teach people how to treat us. Own, rather than complain about how people treat you.
#9: There is power in forgiveness. Open your eyes to what anger and resentment are doing to you.
#10: You have to name it before you can claim it. Get clear about what you want and take your turn

These are Dr Phils main points from Life Strategies... a great book I read a LONG time ago...